If there’s one decision you want to get right in your life; it’s coupling with the right person. Who you decide to mate with can either greatly enhance, or dramatically diminish your quality of life. Studies show that being in a happy and healthy relationship can greatly enhance your health and overall well being, and even bring you greater career success. On the other hand, being in an unhappy, dysfunctional relationship – particularly, a hostile one – is associated with decreased prosperity, career success, and increased health risks.
I believe that when the right partners come together, anything is possible. Personally, everything in my husband’s and my life changed for the better when we got together. I was able to get out of debt, quit my corporate job, and start a new successful career (as a coach, speaker, and author). I was able to rid my body of the chronic fatigue that had ailed me for a few years. Best of all, I was able to slow down and enjoy life more!
My husband found a high-paying job as an engineering manager and was also able to expand his work on the side as a coach as well. We even developed a workshop together, called Manifesting Love, to help smart, successful, conscious singles easily find the right partner, who will love them for who they are.
The best part was, we were each other’s best friend, cheerleaders, and supporters every step of the way.
If you would like to be in a healthy, happy relationship, here are some steps you can take to increase your chances of finding the right partner.
1) Figure out what qualities you want in a partner and WHY. If you’re going to manifest anything, the first step is always to get clarity on what it is you want to manifest. As the saying goes, if you want to hit a bull’s eye, you need to know where the target is!
Once you have written out your list, the next step is to ask yourself WHY you want each of those qualities. For example a client of mine wrote out that she needed a “tall” man. When I asked her why she needed a tall man, she said she would feel “safe”. See how that works? The real need was feeling safe, more so than outlining a physical feature.
Here is what I know for sure: your soul mate may or may not look like your “type”. But as the saying goes, the proof is in the pudding. They WILL be the person you are happiest around and brings out your best self. They will also probably be very supportive of your purpose for being on the planet.
2) Figure out how you want your future relationship to FEEL to you, then become a vibrational match for it. Do you want your partnership to feel loving? Caring? Fun? Exhilarating? Adventurous? Grounded? Calming? Then do your best to become a vibrational match to that feeling. For example, if you want a relationship that feels adventurous, don’t wait to go book that skydiving or river rafting trip you have been contemplating! In terms of vibration, this is the fastest way to bring your partner to you.
3) BE the right partner. Too may people focus on finding the right partner instead of being the right partner. Consider this: many men say they proposed to a woman because she was already acting the way he would want a wife to. Dating, on many levels, is a test run for the real thing. People have the opportunity to set the tone of their relationship very early on in their dating.
Example: On our first date, I was a bit nervous and rambling, when my husband took my hand, and told me we would not be in competition with each other, but rather we would be a team. I was amazed at his boldness, honesty, and positivity and immediately relaxed into him. We have been operating as a team ever since.
Bottom Line: Set the tone of your relationship early on. You’ll be glad you did. It’s much easier to to do it from the beginning, than to try and back track later.
4) Be authentic. As tempting as it is to want to be the “nicest” version of yourself, it’s actually much kinder to just be who you really are. Being real about who you are, what you need, and what you can and can’t give is so much healthier than withholding the truth. By being truthful and authentic, you will naturally be sorting for the right partner.
Bottom Line: The right partner for you is going to love you for YOU, warts and all.
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